The Adult Egostate Decontamination research is new in Possibility Management. We discovered the radical necessity of Decontamination in April 2019 in Germany at the first Trainer Path gathering. Since the beginning we have tried different approaches to empower one another to go through these 3 Phase Healing and Adulthood Initiatory processes.

As one of the few Possibility Coaches who has been Specializing in Adult Egostate Decontamination, and as someone who is training other Possibility Coaches to deliver this profoundly life-changing evolutionary work, I have been studying the results of people trying to do Decontaminations on their own, and also the limitations of the 3Cells working together to support each other's Decontaminations.

What I found is that the individual 'lone wolf' approach is too easily misdirected by the Box with its clever Child Egostate and Gremlin Egostate Survival Strategies to permit authentic Decontaminations. I also found that usually no one in a 3Cell is enough of a Conscious Asshole, with their Sword Of Clarity always at the throat of the Client, with their Center, Grounding Cord, Bubble, Bright Principles, Archetypal Lineage jacked-in, with their Point Of Origin anchored into the Purpose of this work, and with their own Transformed Gremlin alert and at their side. The result is that there is not enough fierceness in the 3Cell to Navigate Transformational Spaces and make persistent interventions that cause the needed awareness and Inner Navigation skill-development for Adult Egostate Decontaminations to occur in reality.

For these reasons - combined with the discovery that Decontamination is so fundamentally important to other Authentic Adulthood Healing and Initiatory Processes, such as those delivered in Possibility Labs - the current Decontamination Coaches are training more Decontamination Coaches in a committed Decontaminator Training. Based on our experiences so far, we strongly recommend that anyone wanting Adult Egostate Decontaminations engage the process with a Trained Decontamination Coach.

We also strongly recommend that you create a 3Cell especially to support you through your Adult Egostate Decontaminations, and, that the other members of your 3Cell are simultaneously doing the Adult Egostate Decontamination with a Decontamination Coach - although it need not necessarily be the same Decontamination Coach.

Decontamination Coaches are people who have already created a clear collaborative relationship with their Initiated Gremlin, have done a real chunk of their own Adult Egostate Decontamination with a Decontamination Coach, are enthusiastically continuing their Decontamination Practices, and have amassed enough Archiarchal Matrix, Distinctions and Transformational Spaceholding to skillfully deliver coaching, personal support, and nonlinear / unreasonable possibilities so that the Client can walk the Path.

During Decontamination you will also need a Team to Hold Space for your Emotional Healing Processes. This could be a weekly EHP Dojo, or the online Telegram EHP Collaboration Group (link to join the Telegram Group: http://t.me/joinchat/WC5Px3vhJLpGU-Cz). Do not expect the two others in your 3Cell to navigate all of your Decontamination Emotional Healing Processes (EHPs), because they will be needing to go through their own EHPs.

I found that often the people in the 3cell do not clearly recognize the unconscious patterns at work. I recommend that you choose your 3Cell mates with particular care to avoid choosing people whose Boxes have similar defense strategies as yours, or with Gremlins who like to play with each other and will therefore protect each other from change.

- Vera Luísa Franco

We cannot overstate how important it is for you to do whatever it takes to Decontaminate your Adult Egostate from the Parent, Child, Gremlin, and Demon Egostates. If you could only see us now, we are jumping up and down on the table waving our hands and shouting it out as loudly as we can! Nobody ever taught us about Egostate Contamination before, and it destroys the best that life has to offer.

It is true that by blending Parent, Child, Gremlin, or Demon behaviors into your Adult Egostate you can quite easily manage to survive through whatever is thrown at you during your childhood and adolescent years. Parents, teachers, bullies, police... no one can touch you when you are shielded by these powerful defensive and offensive tactics. Contaminating your Adult Egostate is incredibly effective as a Survival Strategy, that is, until you become eighteen years old. After that the Contamination Survival Strategy is incredibly effective at hindering you from coming to life as an Initiated Free And Natural Adult.

Once your authentic adulthood initiatory processes begin, keeping your Adult Egostate contaminated blocks you from Adulthood exactly because ‘no one can touch you’.

With the Parent, Child, Gremlin, or Demon parts controlling your feelings, your face, your voice, your actions, your attitudes and behaviors... you are not there. You are fully guarded by an unbreachable defense against Presence and Vulnerability. You remain radically untouchable. The result is that Adult and Archetypal intimacies forever elude you. In this condition you cannot even imagine the cost of being cut off from Adult and Archetypal intimacies and ecstasies.

Almost no one in the world yet recognizes the importance of Decontaminating your Adult Egostate from Parent, Child, Gremlin, or Demon Egostates.

This condition is newly distinguished by Possibility Management Trainer Guild researchers. We wish to spread this information and these procedures as quickly and widely as possible. We would shower you with gratitude if you can help us publish Articles, make videos of processes, write Books, get us into talk shows with Dr. Phil or Dr. Oz, whatever you can to share these life-changing Possibilities.

The procedure for decontaminating your Adult Egostate is simple and straightforward, although not easy. In fact, it is so challenging that even though no one can do it for you, you cannot do it alone. You need a Team of two or three allies who are also Decontaminating their Adult Egostate with the direct support of a Decontamination Coach, who will stand at your side and back you all up during the processes.

STEP 1: For this Experiment, title a new page in your Beep! Book: DECONTAMINATING MY ADULT EGOSTATE. Make important notes to yourself from reading through the website http://decontaminations.mystrikingly.com.

STEP 2: Then write the word SYMPTOMS on your Beep! Book page. List as clearly and thoroughly as you can your personal symptoms of Parent Contamination, Child Contamination, Gremlin Contamination, and Demon Contamination.

STEP 3: Once you have listed your first appraisal of your contamination symptoms, take this question to your Possibility Team: “In what ways is my Adult Egostate contaminated by my Parent, Child, Gremlin, and Demon Egostates?” First read the symptoms you have observed in yourself. Then ask for 20 minutes of their time and attention to share what subtle behaviors they can perceive in you about each of the four possible contaminations. Write down exactly what they say, even if you do not understand it, even if you violently disagree with what they say.

STEP 4: After that, ask, “Based on your observations of me, which contamination is biggest?” Decide that whichever they say is the biggest, is actually the biggest. Commit yourself out loud to start with decontaminating that contamination first. Say, “I now begin my Decontamination with the (Child, Parent, Gremlin, Demon).”

STEP 5: A person can only proceed with one Decontamination at a time. Trying more than one does not work. We have tried it. The process becomes immediately too confusing while one Egostate tries to defend the others through creating confusion and sneaky sabotage. Usually the biggest contamination is from Child or Gremlin, sometimes Parent, rarely Demon. If the biggest is Demon, you should immediately skip this Experiment and implement the procedure described in S.P.A.R.K. 135 which is given on the website http://triggerhunter.mystrikingly.com. For Child, Parent, or Gremlin Decontamination, proceed as follows.

STEP 6: Create a Decontamination 3Cell for yourself. A ‘3Cell’ is a temporary Team of 3 allies with a shared purpose: to support all 3 members to make a leap to expanded potentials of Adulthood.

STEP 7: Contamination shows up as enacting a behavior from one Egostate within a different Egostate. The toxic effects of contamination occur from enacting Child, Parent, or Gremlin behaviors when in the Adult Egostate. At your first online or offline 3Cell meeting, ask your Team which of your contamination behaviors to begin with. It should be one of the most apparent behaviors and yet one of the simplest. For example, let us suppose that your Child Egostate is your biggest contaminator. A first behavior to work with might be your little girl/boy nice-person smile, or that you do not look directly in people’s eyes, or that you rock up onto your toes when you speak, or that you fidget with your hair or clothing, or that you leave little messes around for others to clean up, or that you do not keep your promises on time, etc. rather than a bigger Child Egostate behavior such as being adaptive, giving your center away, not taking a risk to contribute new ideas for fear of looking stupid, or not asking critical questions in the group and then powerlessly complaining afterwards. These are contamination behaviors that can only be decontaminated after you have built up some decontamination legitimacy and momentum through separating out smaller behaviors first. STEP 7 is to choose your first behavior to Decontaminate.

STEP 8: Begin Decontamination. Decontamination means to focus your attention on noticing each time you are about to enact the chosen behavior, and instead, use your intention to move that behavior back into its appropriate Egostate and hold it there. This does not mean to shift out of the Adult Egostate and enact the Child, Parent, or Gremlin behavior. This means to stay in the Adult Egostate, move the impulse for the behavior back to the Child, Parent, or Gremlin Egostate where it came from, and deposit the impulse there without enacting the behavior. Relocating the impulse will at first occupy almost all of your available attention, intention, and will. And, at the beginning, as soon as you release the hold on your impulse, it will sneakily slide back into your Adult Egostate as a contamination again as if it were pulled there by an elastic band. But it is not. The contamination returns to your Adult Egostate through fear and habit, mostly habit. No matter. The Decontamination Practice is to focus entirely on this one tiny impulse to behave a particular way (for example, the urge to make a pointless good boy/girl smile, the urge to make an evil little Gremlin comment or joke…) and EVERY TIME THE IMPULSE APPEARS, move it back to its rightful home before it shows up on your face or comes out your mouth. This is simple. This is clearly measurable. This is possible. You are not fighting against nature. Gremlin behaviors belong in the Gremlin Egostate. Child behaviors belong in the Child Egostate. Parent behaviors belong in the Parent Egostate. Simply put things back where they belong. STEP 8 is to begin the Decontamination practice of moving impulses back into their proper Egostate.

STEP 9: Your fist behavior Decontamination is the most significant. It will take the most repetitions, and the most effort to catch the impulse and move it to its rightful Egostate before the behavior can show itself in the Adult Egostate. STEP 9 is each time you allow your impulse to fulfill itself as a contamination rather than moving the impulse before it manifests back into its proper Egostate, apologize. EVERY TIME you actually do the Gremlin, Child, or Parent behavior from the Adult Egostate, choose a person near you and say out loud, “I apologize for delivering a Child / Gremlin / Parent Egostate behavior from my Adult Egostate. I will not do this any longer.” People may not understand how important this is for you. That does not matter. Trying not to appear crazy, or trying not to disturb someone by only speaking into the limitations of their current ability to understand is adaptive behavior, typical of the Child Egostate. By its very nature, Decontamination is your effort to break your own rules. Nonetheless, your Decontamination work may make a few people uncomfortable, and to some people you may appear to be a little insane or neurotic. NOTE: If having to apologize is not a strong enough penalty, the next level is that each time you deliver a contaminated behavior, give the person you apologize to one dollar in cash. If it gets to this level, you will need to start carrying around a bundle of one-dollar bills with you. Keep checking in with your 3Cell about how this is going.

STEP 10: When your selected contamination behavior stays in its home Egostate for 3 full days after you put it there, it is time to select your next behavior impulse to Decontaminate. The procedure is exactly the same as before, although you should still keep a percentage of your attention on your first behavior to make sure it does not escape and try to contaminate you again.

This is how it goes. Behavior after behavior, one behavior at a time, relocate the impulses back into their appropriate Egostate before they manifest, and hold them there until they stay home of their own accord. The behaviors actually feel more comfortable when they originate from their home Egostate.

Most Decontaminators find that once their simple behavior impulses are relocated out of the Adult Egostate, the bigger, deeper, and more complex contaminations become manageable to relocate without so much tendency to fooling yourself about whether you are actually Decontaminating or not. When the biggest contaminating Egostate is removed from the Adult Egostate, for example the Child Egostate is removed, then you immediately switch to the next contaminating Egostate, say the Gremlin Egostate, and keep doing the Decontamination practice, again, one behavior at a time until it stays home by itself.

There will come a moment when the balance of Adult Egostate presence and power tips over so the Adult Egostate has majority vote and is not contaminated any more. This is when the Adult world opens up. This is an astonishing and revelatory experience, a ‘pole shift’ event. The world starts working differently for you – the way it is designed to work – where possessions and actions that seemed of the highest importance suddenly fade as if they were a mirage, and new perceptions and relations which were previously inaccessible and therefore irrelevant give you the utmost reward. When your 5 Bodies are balanced out in your daily activities and your Adult Egostate is Decontaminated, a doorway to the Archetypal Domains stands open as if it has always been waiting to welcome you. Here is where the great adventures begin. Here is where a sense of the miraculous enters your everyday life.

WARNING: Your 3Cell Team never becomes unimportant. If you ever find yourself absentmindedly disconnecting from your 3Cell, we suggest that you immediately suspect that your Gremlin is busily trying to hijack your life back into the unconscious contaminated condition before you learned about 'all this stupid stuff'. Thinking that you can remain unconscious and irresponsible about having adopted an Adult Egostate contamination Survival Strategy, or that a contaminated Adult Egostate 'does not really matter', or that your contaminated Egostate 'will correct itself after a while'… are all Fantasy Worlds. Living in a Fantasy World is a personal choice. A tsunami of Reasons may wash through your mind about why your 3Cell members are idiots, why there is some secret hierarchy in Possibility Management, why all these next culture ideas are overwhelming, why nobody but you can be trusted. What we have found is that in each person’s successful Adult Egostate Decontamination there was a phase when it became more important for them to trust their 3Cell more than the Voices in their head. This was certainly true for me (Clinton Callahan). I have said it before and I will say it again, my Decontamination 3Cell saved my life by giving me a more authentic adult life than I could ever have arranged for myself in my Gremlin-contaminated condition.

(from Brianne Vaillancourt)

Hello dear Villagers!

For more than one year now I have been aware of my major Child Egostate Contamination in my Adult Egostate. The first few layers of Decontaminating the Child were simple enough, yet at this time last year I hit a wall. It seemed that my Parent Egostate Contamination was blocking the process of Decontaminating the Child Egostate out of my Adult Egostate.

So I stopped.

I shifted to working on the Parent Decontamination instead, and life as I knew it blew up.

I had no idea just how much I was living under the dictatorship of pressure and rules and 'shoulds' of my Parent Egostate. I discovered layers and layers of Memetic Constructs, plus sensations generated by the Parent Egostate that totally suffocated the Child Egostate in me. I did many EHPs, and discovered that I have never in my life actually been able to be a child. My Thoughtware firmly asserted that being a child was wrong. I pressured myself into growing up before I ever even explored how to play in the world. (I have huge grief about forcing myself to destroy this opportunity, Believing that this was the only way I could Survive my childhood.)

So, as part of the parent decontamination, I have been experimenting with letting the Child Egostate have a voice. Letting the Child come out. It has been excruciating for my internalized Parent Egostate to watch it, to let it out even though all of my survival instincts are screaming, "No!"

Last Wednesday, I decided to do the experiment to be the Child for one full day. I consciously decided to let her have the reins. I spoke with my friends and colleagues that live with me, and asked them to hold space for me to do this experiment.

It was hell.

It was total irresponsibility in action. My Child Egostate does NOT want to do anything that anybody asks of her. She has NO soft skills, NO interest in communication, and does NOT care about relating to other people. She can NOT clean up the messes that she leaves behind, and HATES to do anything other than the spontaneous irresponsible play that arises in the moment. She gets moody and easily triggered into emotional Reactivity.

This was terrifying for my 'good girl' Box that wants to be 'perfect' and seen as 'responsible' and 'conscious' and 'awake'. During many moments, I had to interfere with the Child in order to not completely destroy the relationships that are so dear to me.

If this Resonates with you and you want to hear more about my Process, feel free to reach out.

In Love and Discovery,
Brianne

We have discovered that there is a connection between Adult Egostate Contamination as a Survival Strategy and the White Widow Survival Strategy.

The connection is that the Decontamination procedures are very similar.

If you are Decontaminating your Adult Egostate and / or extricating yourself from White Widow, please document your experiences and share what you learn as widely as possible, also with professionals.

Thank you for your work.